I promised a friend and sister that I will talk on this issue before the year is out. Here I am fulfilling my word Teju.
The first thing that we need to understand is that the progenitor of all things is God, not the devil or man, everything including love making comes from God. What happens is that often xtians can be a bit complacent, we sit down expecting everything to drop on our laps like ripe fruits so instead of allowing God’s inspiration to help us discover and pioneer things which we can now use in good ways, we fold our arms till other ungodly people stumble on such discoveries and pervert it. It happens in all fields, not just sex alone, but music, art etc. Now let me use this to answer the question and clarify things for you.
You see, when it comes to sex or like I prefer to call it, love making, there are only two things that the bible goes against, which are sodomy, which includes things like anal sex, beastiality, ( sleeping wth animals), pedophiles, homosexuality etc and such perversions often done by the people of sodom at that time, which if you check are all dangerous, harmful and can even destroy the participants. But you see, apart from all this, whatever happens between a man and his wife in the sanctity sanctum of their marital bed is entirely their business as long as :
1. IT IS NOT HARMFUL TO EITHER or BOTH OF THEM.
2. IT IS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE TO EITHER or BOTH OF THEM.
3. THEY BOTH ENJOY THEMSELVES.
You see, the bible never prescribed any particular position in making love, we all just assumed that the missionary style is the divinely ordained one, who says? Firstly WHAT IS ORAL SEX? . It is using the mouth and tongue to stimulate the genital area of your partner, (Singles shouldn’t be doing this, I won’t stop telling you that Sex is for the married, so get use to it).
In fact, many people assume it’s only d wife that can do this but no my dear, a husband can likewise do so to his wife if they both like. You see, the bible says that as married couples, our bodies belong to each others abi? Good. If this is so, why should the lips be more holy than the penis or vagina, if a woman can kiss her hubby’s chest during love making and a man can caress his wife breast during love making, why should the genitals become a no go area. What makes the stomach or thighs more holy, sanctified or kissable than the genitals. Do you know that there is no way you will do the mouth to mouth deep kiss with your partner and both of you won’t mix your saliva Together ?, is the saliva purer or cleaner than the semen? Do u see why I say it’s all about perception and preference? Do u get my drift? Every part of our bodies are holy and has d right to equal amount of attention, worship and adoration during love making between couples as long as it’s fine between them. God created every inch of our bodies, they are all fearfully and wonderfully made, and they are to be used to give each other pleasure during marriage.
Some Xtians indeed believe that it could be unbelievers who introduced oral sex. My dear, who said so. Becos they use it more in pornographic films abi? You see, like I told u, the world only perverts, they don’t create, how do you and I know that our matriarch Sarah did not give father Abraham a blow job, lolll, or that gentleman Boaz never used his mouth on Ruth, lolll. We don’t know now becos such details were never written in the bible, in fact to be candid, was it written anywhere in the bible that the penis must only go into the vagina, no, i’v never met that scriptures, so why do we assume that’s the only way.
You see, where a lot of people have issues with oral sex is that most people find it distasteful and irritating to even imagine a man ejaculating i.e spilling sperm into his partners mouth! Yuk! Iyama! Abi? Yes, it’s true but the reality is that, its not compulsory that the man must ejaculate during oral sex, if his wife doesn’t like it. I can’t go into too much details cause I know quite a number of my readers are still single and are not close to marriage yet so I’m exercising caution. But it’s not compulsory he releases into her mouth, since love making is all about expressing love to each other, both partners shouldn’t do what the other finds uncomfortable .
But they can reach a convenient balance and once both of them are happy and enjoying themselves, then why not. What I’m saying then is that, it’s not compulsory you or I like it but it doesn’t make it wrong just because you don’t like it. Finally, we xtians should learn to be more open minded when it comes to the issue of bedmatics, its one of d reasons why a lot of xtian marriages are boring and obsolete. The children of d world are often wiser than the children of light, many of us God’s children are closed minded, one way traffic group of people , it bugs me becos i’v never met a more dynamic, exciting and diversified personality like the Holy spirit, so how can we have d Holy spirit in us and our sex life or life generally is so one way, predictable and boring. Nah my sister and brother nothing is wrong with oral sex, once the couple are fine with it and they enjoy themselves .
Adetutu Osofowora (Tusky).